When you’re complaining to someone, it might sound like just that.

Instead, try telling him how you feel: “I feel stressed,” “I feel angry,” …. Sharing how you feel is a shortcut for the person to figure out exactly what’s behind the complaining.

You might’ve been complaining about the same thing for the past 2 weeks. However, upon learning that you feel stressed, your manager will now pay attention and try to look for solutions.

Of course, in order to tell someone how you feel, you have to know what you’re feeling first.

Once the problem is accurately diagnosed, treatments can be found.